Have you thought about how we
collect pluses and minuses on each other?
You say something nice about me and you have earned a plus but say
something to hurt my feelings and you receive a minus. The
problem is that it takes a lot to earn a plus and very little to receive a
minus. Thus, husbands especially, often live
in the deficit area. That’s because
women expect more from a relationship than husbands typically do. That’s God’s doing. Remember His punishment for Eve was that she
would want a close connectedness with Adam, while he would focus on making a
living.
Women tend to save points for
the small things a husband does, but gives them a lower value than a husband thinks
they are worth. Then she inflates points
with each hurt, disappointment, or annoyance, probably much more than she
should. Regularly, she subtracts her
man’s negative points from his positive points and many men end up in debt. .
. deep debt.
Fellas, let me share a few of
the ways that a woman rates you.
NEGATIVES: She asks, “Do I look fat in this?” (-5) There is no answer you can give that won’t
cost you points. If you hesitate before
answering (-10). If you ask, “Where?” (– 35).
You develop a potbelly (-15). You
wear baggy pants so your undershorts occasionally show when you bend over
(-30). You say, “My belly is no worse than yours” (-100).
You offer to take her to dinner and go through a drive-thru window (-10). You ask her to go to a movie without telling her you bought tickets for “Men
in Black” (-35). You fall asleep when
she wants to talk about something that to her is a serious problem (-100). You make the bed but forget the decorative
pillows (-2). You walk away and leave
her alone at a party (-5). You go talk to another woman for longer than
3 minutes (-15). The woman is pretty and
single (-30). You buy a gift for a
female friend of her’s while on vacation without buying her something nicer
(-40). Fellas, it’s not being
thoughtful of her friends, it’s putting another woman ahead of her. Shame.
Make that a -75.
POSITIVES: You crawl
out of bed and go downstairs during the night because she hears a noise
(+3). You find nothing (+0). You take her to dinner on her birthday – to a
place she really likes (+10). You go see
a movie about relationships and say you enjoyed it (+15). You change the TV to a love story you think she will like in the middle of your game (+50). You sit facing her and look into her eyes
when she wants to talk (+5). You say, “Un-hun, Oh-ooo” as she tell you her concern
(+2). You say, “I am sorry this hurts
you.” (+30). You ask what you can do to
make things better – and follow through, doing what she says (+50). You load or unload the dishwasher or washer/dryer (+1). Remember it’s your dirty dishes and clothes
too. You bring her flowers or a nice
card (+5). You write her a love note,
telling her all the things you love about her (+100). The note is handwritten and mailed (+400).
Okay fellas, now you know how
to earn points for coming out ahead. Are
you known for following advice?
