According to #John Van Epps, author
of #How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk, you need to decide among five other attributes before dating another on a regular basis. Remember #you marry someone you date -- at least in the US. Try rating each person you date on a scale of
1-100 with 100 being always good and 1 being extremely disappointing. 1.
Knowing Him: How well do you really know
the person? Does he share private concerns
or do always feel he holds something back? How well do you know his family? What do his friends say about him? And probably the most important is #how do
prior girlfriends describe him? 2. Trusting Him: Do you trust him fully? Would you be willing to tell him something
you would never want another to know? Would you trust him with your last dime
and know he would repay it? Is his work
record reliable or does he frequently make excuses to be absent? Is he honest
in all areas? Has he ever told you a
‘little white lie?” 3. Relying on Him:
Can you rely on your date? Does he always
phone when he promises? Does he remember
your birthday? Does he take the lead in
ensuring you get to worship on time or has he ever suggested you miss to do
something else? #Can you rely on him to
put God first? 4. Acts Committed: Does he act fully committed or is he glancing
at other women when in public? Does he
put you before all others? In a crowd
does he stay by your side and pay you compliments in front of others? Has he
ever said something in front of others that embarrassed or hurt you? When he’s with other guys, does he degrade and
make negative jokes about women? 5.
Touches Lovingly: Does he touch you in
gentle, tender ways? Has he ever hit you
or had you fearing he might? Does he
mind holding hands in public? Does he
try to touch you in ways that make you uncomfortable? Does no mean no to him?
Ten attributes (including the important ones in the prior post) that research shows determines if you
#choose the right man for a marriage partner and prove you will more likely #stay married for a life
time. Where do you stand? #Living with someone 24/7 proves challenging
for the most committed couples and more so when one doesn’t value the things that
mean the most to you.
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